Should I be worried?

• Should I be worried?
  It can be really difficult to know whether your child’s behaviour or feelings are to be expected as a part of growing up or a warning sign they are struggling. Click on the link above for some ideas of what to look out for at different ages. And remember- you’re not alone. You’ll find lots of links to real-life stories from other families throughout this website, as well as professional advice.
• Starting a conversation with your child Ideas and conversation starters
• Parenting a teenager or young adult? This takes you through to our parent and carer pages for this age group.
• Parenting Smart. Short videos or reads on common issues parents worry about , written by child health experts.

Looking after yourself and your family

Being a parent or carer can be hard work at times and if your child is experiencing mental health problems or behaving in a challenging way, it can be even harder. It’s easy to feel it’s somehow all your fault or that you can fix it by doing or saying the right things, but often all you can do is be there for your child and support them through the tough times. It’s important to look after yourself as well and seek advice from your GP if you’re struggling. We’ve also listed some ways of connecting with other parents who might be going through similar issues.

Let us guide you to some of the very best websites and contacts for families. There are more resources in each of the topic sections.

• YoungMinds Information A-Z and Parent’s Survival Guide
• Teaching your child mental health coping skills The Child Mind Institute from the US features videos of children and young people from primary school to young adults talking about different coping skills. Beautifully presented, inclusive, accessible and with skills sheets you can print off.
• NHS 0-18 years section on children’s mental health Well worth a look for their green/amber/red guidance on what’s typical at different ages and when to seek help.
• Mental health problems in children and young people: Support for parents and carers  Downloadable leaflets, interviews and a link to parent support groups (UK)
• Parents Toolkit from BBC Bitesize with extra sections for parents and carers of young people with additional needs.
• MindMate is a beautiful website based in Leeds with a good section for parents and carers.
• MindEd Free (login to the families section) has sections on “Talking to my child or teenager”, “Keeping ourselves strong”, “Top parenting tips”, “Parenting in a digital world” and more.

Looking after yourself and your relationships

• Moodzone: mental health support for you. Advice, interactive tools (like a mood assessment quiz), audioguides and real-life stories
• Click A great online resource for relationship problems – it’s free and you can read other people’s stories or get help from a Click listener. Topics include lies and trust, coping with money problems as a couple, relationship break-ups and parenting when you’ve separated.
• Family Lives – top tips on looking after yourself and for a happier family.
• Families Under Pressure – Check out these short “Top Tip” videos on help with difficult behaviour and help with negative emotions formulated by NHS Mental Health Experts.
• Getting stressed and overwhelmed with being a parent? 
• Relate A great resource with sections on step-families, parenting teenagers, coping with separation and more. You can chat with a counsellor for free online. In some areas, Relate also offers face-to-face counselling (at a cost depending on income) including family therapy. This site offers extensive advice on relationship issues of all types.

Videos

• Parentchannel TV has many videos for all ages covering common parenting issues and advice for looking after yourself, and your partner, bonding with your baby, communicating with your child, keeping your temper and so much more.

• Support for brothers and sisters

  When someone is struggling with ill health of any kind, the needs of other family members are easily forgotten or sidelined and while that may be unavoidable, there is support available. Brothers and sisters may respond by seeking attention themselves, perhaps with difficult behaviour, but often they will seek to make life easier for you and may avoid burdening you with their own problems.

  Top Tip: ‘When you can, set aside just a few minutes for other members of your family every day, to give them your undivided attention, making it clear that this is their protected time. It really made a huge difference in our family ‘ (Tom, Dad)

   

  • Rethink Mental Health Charity Information for parents ​​including how to talk to your child about their concerns
  • Information for siblings on this Childline page on “Supporting a family member with a mental illness”(scroll down for a section on siblings)
  • Sibling Link A peer support charity for siblings over 18 years who have a brother or sister with mental illness or who have been bereaved by suicide.
  • Young Sibs For siblings of disabled children and adults

All of these links have been taken from the website https://www.happymaps.co.uk/help-directory/looking-after-yourself-and-your-family/ which has even more advice and support if you need it.